Concerns in a 40-Year Marriage
A woman has been married for 40 years and has always shared friendships with her husband. However, she is facing a problem where her husband does not allow her to speak privately to the men in their group unless she confirms with him first what she’s talking about. He also asks for details about her visits to the women in the group, mainly to find out if their husbands were around.
Lack of Trust and Control
The woman has never given her husband any reason to suspect that there was something going on between her and anyone else. She values him and considers him to be someone with honesty and integrity, and she loves him with all her heart. Despite this, her husband’s behavior has been going on for a long time, and she is tired of it. She is considering leaving him to enjoy the rest of her life in peace with all kinds of people and relationships.
Advice
The woman’s situation is surprising, given that it has taken her 40 years to finally say "enough." Her husband may be a man of honesty and integrity, but he is also someone with limitless insecurities and an insatiable need to control her. Marriage counseling may be recommended, but it is unlikely that her husband is capable of changing. Counseling alone might give her the courage to draw a boundary.
Dealing with an Abusive Marriage
Another individual found the courage to leave an abusive marriage, which was difficult. The family refuses to accept that a woman could have abused a man and is skeptical. Even after attending therapy, they still doubt the individual’s honesty. The individual has a 9-year-old daughter from the marriage and is now in a healthy relationship with another man. However, the family continues to attack and say they won’t speak to the individual anymore.
Grandparent Visitation Rights
The individual’s mother, who refuses to speak to them, wants to take them to court to win the right to see the daughter. The daughter doesn’t want to spend time with her grandmother anymore after seeing how she treated her parent. The individual is worried about the situation and is unsure if they should be concerned. Since the question is legal in nature, it is recommended that the individual contact an attorney who is familiar with family law.
