Introduction to Parent-Child Disputes Over Technology
A new report has found that nine in 10 parents argue with their children about technology use, with half saying the topic comes up at least weekly. The survey of 2,000 U.S. parents of children ages 8 to 17 found that a large majority of children (87%) said they have argued with their parents over technology use, although 61% said these arguments typically last a few minutes or less.
Causes of Arguments
Most arguments about digital devices are primarily triggered by too much screen time (46%) and using the phone before bed (40%). For many, it is also fueled by gaming (28%), using devices while eating or with family (28%), watching or engaging with inappropriate content (25%), and using social media (25%).
Parental Concerns
Outside of school, 56% of parents believe their child spends too much time online, and 46% believe technology has a negative impact on their children’s emotions. If they put themselves in their parents’ shoes, half of the children surveyed said they would also be worried about their online activities. For 59% of children, this includes having seen virtual videos showing extreme violence, serious injury, or death in the past year.
Parental Awareness and Involvement
The survey found that 86% of parents believe children are growing up faster than previous generations. Still, 58% of parents say they are “very aware” of their children’s online activities, and almost all (97%) have spoken to their children about online safety. 87 percent of parents now feel tech-savvy enough to talk to their children about online risks and properly manage their children’s digital footprint.
Setting Rules for Internet Use
For the vast majority (95%), managing digital footprint starts with setting rules for internet use at home. Rules parents swear by include: all digital purchases must be approved by them (64%), time limits on devices (50%), no devices until after homework and chores (49%), and parents must know all passwords (47%). Other rules include no social media until a certain age (43%), no devices in family group settings (39%), and no Wi-Fi at certain times of day (19%).
Consequences of Breaking Rules
And when those rules are broken, parents respond by taking away devices (66%), reducing screen time (42%), and checking in on them to see if they’re struggling with something (34%). Most children (71%) said they feel their parents are aware of online safety. Meanwhile, 25% believe their parents are too strict, and 4% believe their parents are too neglectful.
Impact on Children
At least a third (38%) said arguments with their parents resulted in their devices being taken away at least once a month, leaving them feeling either frustrated (56%) or angry (50%). According to experts, restricting devices is more of a band-aid than a foolproof solution. Children will find ways to get around the rules if they are not taught self-regulation and the importance of staying away from screens or being responsible with their online behavior.
Parent-Child Disputes at Home
According to parents, the most common disputes at home are about technology use (phones, games, social media) – 28%, duties or responsibilities – 25%, homework or grades – 21%, other topics – 13%, and curfew or social plans – 12%. Children agree, with technology use being the most common source of disputes, followed by duties or responsibilities, homework or grades, curfew or social plans, and other topics.
Conclusion
The survey highlights the need for parents to be proactive in teaching their children about online safety and responsible technology use. By setting rules, being aware of their children’s online activities, and having open conversations, parents can help their children develop healthy digital habits and reduce the risk of online harm.
