Concerns About Husband’s Honesty
A woman who has been married for two months is struggling with the fact that someone anonymously informed her that her husband has Asperger’s. She had already suspected this, but the anonymous message has caused her significant distress. Having recently lost her mother to cancer and previously being in a relationship with a narcissist who lied to her, she is now questioning her husband’s honesty.
Seeking Advice
The woman is unsure of how to proceed and is considering asking her husband to get checked for Asperger’s. However, she is also worried about the potential impact on their marriage. She is seeking advice on how to navigate this situation and whether she should confront her husband about the anonymous message.
Response to Concerns
It is suggested that people who write anonymous letters are often not trying to be helpful, but rather may be causing problems in the marriage. Before taking any action, it is recommended that the woman read as much information as possible about Asperger’s and consider contacting the Association for Autism and Neurodiversity for support. If her findings suggest that her husband may have Asperger’s, she can then suggest that he get checked. It is also noted that having Asperger’s does not necessarily mean that someone is lying, and many successful people are on the spectrum.
A Complicated Friendship
In a separate situation, a 32-year-old man is struggling with his feelings for his 57-year-old best friend and colleague. Her husband passed away two years ago, and the man has realized that his feelings for her go beyond friendship. However, he is nervous about expressing his feelings due to their age difference and the potential risk of ruining their friendship.
Navigating Unrequited Love
The man is advised to have a casual conversation with his friend to gauge her feelings about their age difference. If she is open to the
