Relationship Concerns and Advice

Introduction to Concerns

A woman is concerned about her husband’s behavior in his sleep, as he often says his late girlfriend’s name and expresses his love for her. The husband had been in a relationship with this woman on and off for 15 years before she passed away, and he married his current wife three months after his release from prison. The wife is upset by this and wants to know how to deal with the situation.

Advice on Dealing with the Situation

The advice given is that the husband’s behavior is likely a result of old habits and that the wife should gently wake him up if he talks in his sleep. She should explain that he was talking in his sleep without being specific about what he said. The wife is reminded that his late girlfriend is in the past and that she is his current partner.

Another Relationship Concern

An elderly widow is dating a man who constantly stares at other women, despite her having talked to him about it. He claims that he was raised by his mother and grandmother and is therefore attracted to women in general, but the widow is finding it hard to suppress her feelings of jealousy.

Advice on Overcoming Jealousy

The advice given is that the man’s behavior is insensitive and rude, and that the widow should consider ending the relationship if it makes her feel bad about herself. His excuses for staring at other women are not valid, and the widow deserves a companion who is more considerate of her feelings.

A 31-Year Marriage in Trouble

A man has been married for 31 years and has been arguing with his wife about politics and cultural changes for the same amount of time. The arguments have decreased, but their sexual desire for each other has also diminished. The wife has given the man an ultimatum, telling him that he must change his politics to match hers or she will leave him.

Advice on Saving the Marriage

The advice given is that the man should tell his wife and their marriage counselor that the decline in arguments has also led to a decline in their sex life. It may be time to seek advice from a different professional. The wife’s ultimatum is unrealistic, and the man should not feel forced to change his beliefs to save the marriage. Instead, they should try to agree to disagree and find a way to move forward together.