Marriage and Social Isolation

A woman writes about her husband’s negative attitude and lack of patience with others, including family and friends. Over the years, he has alienated most of their friends, leaving them with no social life. She attributes his behavior to possible depression, as he takes various medications. The woman is concerned that his rudeness is taking a toll on her and fears she might sink into depression as well.

Seeking a Solution

The advice given is for the woman to discuss her husband’s mental health problems with a doctor, exploring the possibility of alternative medications and talk therapy. It is suggested that she consider consulting someone to help her decide whether she wants to continue living in isolation. The key message is that nothing will change unless she becomes proactive.

Dealing with a Difficult Daughter-in-Law

Another woman writes about her 2 1/2-year relationship with a divorced man. Despite their good relationship, his 31-year-old daughter is very rude and unfriendly towards her. The daughter has controlled most family gatherings, excluding her from events like Christmas Eve dinner.

Planning for the Future

As the holidays approach, the woman wants to be part of the plans as a couple. However, her partner is indecisive, trying to improve his relationship with his daughter. The woman is unsure if they should consider living together or getting married until the situation with his daughter improves.

Advice for Moving Forward

The advice given is that the daughter’s disrespect should not have been tolerated. The woman’s partner should be given a deadline to decide how he wants to spend the holidays. If he does not choose to spend it with her, she should consider taking a vacation at that time. It is also suggested that she put the brakes on cohabitation until he resolves the issue with his daughter, possibly with the help of a licensed psychologist.