A Troubling Engagement
A 60-year-old divorced woman has been dating a Dane for a year and is engaged to be married. However, she is facing a difficult situation due to her fiancé’s behavior. He has asked her and her 21-year-old autistic daughter to move to Denmark, but the woman is hesitant due to her daughter’s needs and her own financial struggles.
A History of Refusal
The woman lost her second job a few months ago and was struggling to pay rent. She asked her fiancé for help, but he refused and became angry, stating that he didn’t want to be a "sugar daddy." He has also been open about his wealth, often telling her about his earnings and savings. Despite this, he refused to provide her with $2,000 to prevent eviction, suggesting that she ask her ex-husband for the money instead.
Concerns About the Future
The woman is concerned about her fiancé’s attitude towards her daughter, who requires assistance with daily tasks. He initially agreed to have her daughter live with them, but now wants her to move to a foreign country where she doesn’t speak the language. He has also told the woman that she cannot keep her cat. The woman feels that her fiancé is not willing to support her or her daughter, and is unsure about what to do with their relationship.
Advice from a Columnist
A columnist has advised the woman to end the engagement, citing the numerous warning signs in her fiancé’s behavior. The columnist believes that the fiancé is not willing to provide the necessary support for the woman and her daughter, and that this will not change even if they move to Denmark.
A Separate Issue: Dealing with Bullying
In a separate letter, a student has written to the columnist about a boy in their school who is bullying girls by slut-shaming them and calling them derogatory names. The student and their classmates are trying to find a way to stop the bullying without resorting to violence.
A Call to Action
The columnist has advised the student to report the bullying to their parents, teachers, and school administration. The columnist believes that violence is never the answer and that the school should take action to address the bullying and prevent it from happening in the future.
