Concerns About a Live-In Girlfriend’s Spending Habits
A man in his mid-50s is concerned about his live-in girlfriend’s spending habits. She moved in with him nine months ago after losing her home due to her friend’s death. Despite struggling to find employment, when she does work, she spends her money on unnecessary items, such as designer clothes and accessories. She justifies her spending by saying she deserves it after going through a tough time and believes in living life to the fullest.
The man is frustrated because he feels she is not saving enough to eventually move out and get her own place. He would rather she use the money she spends on him to save for her own future. However, he is unsure of how to approach the situation without hurting her feelings, as she is sensitive and takes things personally.
Advice on Handling the Situation
The man is advised to gently break the news to his girlfriend that he does not want a permanent roommate and that if she wants to show her gratitude, he would appreciate it if she saved her money to get her own place. This approach acknowledges his concerns while also being sensitive to her feelings.
Dealing with Questions About Children
In a separate situation, a childless man is wondering how to handle questions about children in social situations. He feels that people often assume everyone has children, which can lead to uncomfortable conversations when they ask him about his kids. He believes that people should ask if someone has children before discussing the topic, especially in group settings.
Advice on Responding to Questions About Children
The man is advised that instead of being rude, people are often thoughtless when asking about children. A possible response to such questions could be to simply say, "My wife and I are child-free." This approach acknowledges the question while also setting boundaries and avoiding uncomfortable conversations.
